A few years ago, someone told me that after seven years all the cells in your body change. (After some googling, it turns out that’s not exactly true.). It made think about how much about our lives change in seven years.
This month we have been looking at how to identify what you want and how to talk about it to the people around you. But what if what you thought you wanted, isn’t quite right or what if what used to work just doesn’t anymore?
We have all started down a road only to find that before we even get there, that it isn’t the direction we want to go anymore. Is it a bigger waste to change directions and correct your course? Or to finish just because you started? It isn’t easy to let go of something but if it doesn’t fit your life anymore and you can’t makeit fit…. Then it seems like it may be time to let it go.
A long time ago my mentor told me that what brings a couple together, 7-10 years later doesn’t exist anymore. (And if it does it is very different than it was when things started.) He said that couples have to work to keep building together throughout their relationship in order to keep things good and strong and working. That’s true of so many things in our lives. Think about what it was like seven years ago in your career. Or seven years ago as a parent. Or even seven years ago in long term friendships. There are some elements that brought you together that are likely still present today but you have changed and so have they.
Now is as good a time as any to ask yourself what is working and what you are forcing. It might be true that you wanted X once… But do you still want it?
But that’s scary…
It may not feel like it right now, but the bravest thing to do is to change course and set out on a new adventure. Of course, there are good and healthy ways to do that and there are unhealthy and hurtful ways to do it. Ask for help. Who in your tribe is good at the thing(s) you are struggling with? Let them help you make a plan that feels like it could work.
Time is the only thing in life you can never get more of… How much of it can you afford to waste on things that don’t make you a better you?
As always, I’m here. If you are ready to live your best life, call me and let’s get started!