For a long time, I wouldn’t even consider myself a perfectionist because I wasn’t good enough at being ok to even call myself an aspiring perfectionist. Without realizing it, I existed to make other people happy or at least make
What is/are Your Obligation(s) to Yourself?
We talk about this is one shape or another a lot… What are our obligations to ourselves? Self Talk I think this shows up a lot in how we speak ourselves in particular. Do you tell yourself you “deserve” good
Why You Don’t Have to Take Your Kids to That Party
Do you feel like you are over committed? Do you feel as though you spend more time juggling your scheduled than living your life? WHY? I’m pretty sure we’ve all been in a place in life that we didn’t feel
Who Do You Owe Your Time and Attention To?
As people start to pursue (or berate themselves for not pursuing) their New Year’s resolutions. I have been listening and looking around wondering who we owe things to and why. This month we are going to be looking at obligations
What if Your Nervous System is Steering Your to the Wrong Partners?
Have you ever felt like you may be addicted to someone? Or that you couldn’t get them out of your head even though you know they probably aren’t good for you? What if I told you that your nervous system
To Whom are You Attached?
For some of us, romantic relationships feel easier than friendships. There is almost a more clear pathway to romance than friendship. We grow up hearing things like, “break ups are hard” and “they wouldn’t call them crushes, if they didn’t
Are You Being MADE sick for someone else’s gain?
In my last blog I discussed industries (yes, ENTIRE indsustries) that profit from your pain. This time I want to talk about industries that profit from you being sick. If you have met me for more than about 5 minutes,
Who Profit$ from Your Pain?
I mean the question pretty littlerally. Who makes money when you feel badly? To be honest, the list is pretty long. There are not a lot of businesses that lift you up for profits. Or perhaps more to the point,
Self-Sabotage in relationships
Last time we talked about the type of self-sabotage that has you procrastinating and distracting yourself with outside forces. Today, let’s look at a very different kind of self-sabotage where we push other people away. Have you ever heard of
Self-sabotage vs Down Time
We all deserve down time but when does down time spill over into avoiding what we really need or want to do and turn into self-sabotage? Self-sabotage is generally thought of as activities ranging from self-harming behaviors like; cutting, drug