When I was a kid, I LOVED Halloween. It was a time where you could be creative, every kid loves trick or treating, haunted houses are still fun and I used to really enjoy scary movies, the scarier the better.

Back then; most kids had a costume that their mother put together and people had to be a little more creative. I was a black cat several times, a ballerina at least twice and a dwarf (as in Snow White). Ok, so we weren’t that creative.

Since then, the trend has been moving towards purchasing costumes. I get it! I’m not gifted with a sewing machine (I have a mutilated blanket to prove it) and it can be difficult to get a kid to decide on a costume in enough time to actually make one in time for Halloween.

In addition to trends moving towards store bought costumes from homemade costumes another trend had started…. A few years ago I went to a costume shop looking for fake skin (I was a zombie) and while I waited for my friend to find what she needed I strolled through the isles and was overwhelmed with what I saw. I realized that most of the little girl and teen/tween costumes were SEXY!! I looked around at the little girls in the isles around me and wondered why on earth a little girl would need to have a short skirt, fishnet stockings and bare midriff! Are we looking to give predators a preview? Are we trying to reinforce the idea that women are more valuable when they are sexy/attractive/alluring? Are we grooming little girls for a world where they have to compete with other women with their sexuality?

It just got me really angry!

What happened to clowns, witches, goblins?  Now, little girl costumes are scary for a totally different reason.  Every year I hope that the trends will start to move the other way and ever year I’m disappointed. I found these tonight….

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And I have seen The Wizard of Oz several times, I don’t remember the Scarecrow was showing off his clavicle.

I was pleased to find some that were totally age appropriate like a Ghostbuster’s costume a Rey costume (Star Wars) and a toddler girl’s Dory costume. But when you sort by the most popular costumes, what comes up is fitted, short skirts and heels.

We are doing it to boys too!

We send boys and young men confusing messages when we send our daughters out into the world scantily clad and tell them not to look, not to be curious and not to say anything.  No, I am absolutely not condoning anyone putting their hands on anyone else or shaming women about their bodies.  I’m saying that I understand why some young men and women are confused about the role that sexuality should and could play in their lives.  It is difficult to tell young men to treat women and girls with respect when so many of their role models in the media don’t and we parade our daughters with their bodies on display.

One of the things I love about Halloween is the opportunity to be creative and stretch yourself in a new direction. “Sexy” is a direction women have their entire adult lives to try out. My challenge to parents is to make sure that they protect their daughters (and sons) by making sure that the direction includes modesty.

This Makes Me So Mad!!