For a lot of couples, being in quarantine has turned up the intensity of stress and even conflict.  In fact, I think most couples have likely struggled in all the stress.  Financial concerns are huge, for some having to negotiate the kids being home all the time, having to learn new ways to blow off steam, losing […]

Remember in February and March when we didn't think that COVID-19 would get the bad where we live? That was fun, right? Ignorance really is bliss. In a way I'm glad I didn't really know what was coming as I simply would have worried about things far beyond my control. As we settle into our […]

I often find that people, especially those that have experienced trauma have an internal battle.  There is a fight between what they know and how they feel.  And often how we feel overrides what we know.  The trouble is that this often happens so quickly we don’t realize that we are acting on information that is not fact but feeling.  We do […]

I don’t know when it happened…. Maybe it started stoic western European settlers that came to what would become the US via very difficult journeys then had to do awful things to Native Americans and at times to each other while making new lives but somehow our culture has separated the body and the mind.  It’s […]

Do you have physical complaints and keep going to the doctor, who tells you there’s nothing wrong with you?  If this keeps happening to you, you probably have somatic symptoms that often are related to trauma. Keep reading then.   What Are Somatic Symptoms and How Common Are They? Somatization is basically any physical symptom that […]

Your brain is your biggest sex origin so there is no way to have a conversation about improving any part of your sex life that does not begin with how you think, how you feel and how you communicate your needs. There are almost an infinite number of ways to improve your sex life and […]

Late last year when I decided to look for a book club, I was thinking about fiction.  What I found was a book club for therapists and the first book for this year was “Science for Sexual Happiness.”  I thought it would be perfect to look at sex and intimacy in February.   Whether you are single or […]

So by this time of the year, the end of January where your resolutions have had time to be tested.  Yesterday, I ran into a lady from my gym who said she hadn’t been in a couple of weeks because work has been too busy for her.  That’s the thing about our goals, they are quickly interrupted […]

Talk of change is everywhere this time of year; more adds for workout equipment and gym memberships, weight loss programs and meal prep services, dating apps and jewelry commercials.  And how many of those products are left abandoned in a corner gathering dust or totally forgotten about by March?  Most of them.  This year, if you sincerely want […]