I don’t know about you, but when I’m overwhelmed it feels impossible to focus and just do one thing at a time which almost always makes the problem feel worse.  So where do you even start? Stop. Stop and breathe.  Meditation is really important, especially when you feel like you don’t have time for it.  Even if you […]

Most of us struggle with making big decisions, they are difficult for a reason.  Often, it isn’t that we are uncertain, it’s that we know that it will be painful to act.  In an effort to avoid pain, we often delay and second guess. First, that’s ok.  If often remind myself that there are very few decisions in […]

I recently read a short story about a little girl who was sent to live with relatives that she didn’t really know for the summer.  On the journey there, she watched the scenery go by and wondered if her life with these relatives would be better or worse than being home with her parents.  She didn’t get […]

Have you noticed how scary the unknown is?  Even just thinking about the unknown makes the muscles in my shoulders wake up.  In the abstract, it’s not so bad but when we think about specific unknowns in our lives, it’s so easy to get carried away.  Like, how will I ever be able to afford to retire?  Is a […]

My last blogged looked at why we get persuaded or why we may even let ourselves get persuaded.  It seems equally important to consider why others would want to persuade us. Most of us want what we want, the way we want it, from whom we want it and when we want it.  That’s just human nature.  That by itself doesn’t […]

Do you ever hear yourself agreeing to do something you don’t want to do and wondering why?  Is it obligation?  Is it pressure from the other person?  Is it FOMO?  What persuades us to do things? The definition suggests that we are induced to believe by appealing to reason or understanding.  But it when we talk about being persuaded it […]

Personally and professionally I meet a lot people who long to be perfect.  It sounds great in theory.  To drive for something that by definition, is “complete beyond practical or theoretical improvement.”  Of course, the problem with that is that there is really no such thing as “beyond practical or theoretical improvement.”  Because there is always a way to […]

I don’t know about you, but for as long as I can remember, I’ve held myself to a standard that has felt totally unattainable.  Growing up in my family, I got a lot of messages about perfection.  Though I was often told I didn’t need to be perfect, I was typically chided when I wasn’t.  “You just need to try […]

I have been surprised and impressed with how many people decided, seemingly all that the same time, that Britney Spears should be released from her conservatorship.  Years ago, when Britney was having public meltdowns people seemed to believe she needed help.  What I don’t understand is what changed everyone’s mind?  Was it as simple as hearing from her […]