Dictionary.com lists the definition of vulnerability as “capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt, as by a weapon.” I had a professor in grad school say “that fists don’t hurt like words; words kill.” To be human is to be vulnerable but we work very hard at becoming impervious to attack. Why do we work […]
Like most of you, I struggled a lot in the first couple of weeks of quarantine with work. Today, we are going to explore some strategies that have worked for me and others. Put it away. At the end of each work day, I put it all away. Even if I work from home that […]
As 2020, and COVID drag on it is important to be patient with ourselves, our families and our neighbors. This month, we are going to look at simple strategies that are meant to help you feel a little less crazy this year. Shhhhhh…. It’s quiet time. It may sound simplistic but how often do you turn all […]
Our world seems to feel a little smaller every day. There is over crowding is most cities, right now we are all stuck at home feeling as though there is not enough room in our four walls, the media is constant, we live in a ‘global community’ and have access to people all over the world […]
In her book, “A history of the Wife,” Yalom describes what it meant to be a wife and the concept of love from the time of the Romans through today. (It's not my favorite book but it brings up some really interesting conversations and historical points.) Yalom points out that that in the beginning marriage was […]
Esther Perel has done a lot of work with couples and looked at how to ‘want what you have’ long term. In her book, “Mating in Captivity,” she wrote: “Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.” "Mating in Captivity; Unlocking Erotic Intelligence" - Esther Perel For some people, they believed or hoped that being […]
Dating in a time when it is considered healthy to stay a minimum of six feet away from people is a unique challenge unto itself. Not that it wasn’t difficult enough to strike up a conversation with a stranger or even meet someone before the pandemic. In fact, my neighbor last weekend said she hasn’t been on […]
Earlier this year I virtually met Marie from her streaming show Mxiety. Last night we teamed up to talk to her community and let them share, talk and ask questions about how to work through their Anxiety during quarantine. You can watch it HERE.
For a lot of couples, being in quarantine has turned up the intensity of stress and even conflict. In fact, I think most couples have likely struggled in all the stress. Financial concerns are huge, for some having to negotiate the kids being home all the time, having to learn new ways to blow off steam, losing […]