When I sat down to write this, I couldn't help but think of the Boyz II Men song... Goodbyes are difficult but they are important. We've all said goodbye to people, places and things. Goodbyes can be uncomfortable and I feel as though people are starting to avoid anything and everything that makes them uncomfortable […]
There are A LOT of reasons to end therapy; you don’t click with your therapist, you have to move out of state, you feel as though you’ve met your goals, etc. In a year when we have all had to say a lot of good-byes, I thought now was as good a time as any to […]
Man, I hate asking for help! Don't you? Especially, this year. It seems like in 2020, we are all working as hard as humanly possible to both blame each other for everything and not bother anyone for anything. Last month a hacker took over my website. I was not special, thousands of sites including GoDaddy.com […]
Dictionary.com lists the definition of vulnerability as “capable of or susceptible to being wounded or hurt, as by a weapon.” I had a professor in grad school say “that fists don’t hurt like words; words kill.” To be human is to be vulnerable but we work very hard at becoming impervious to attack. Why do we work […]
Like most of you, I struggled a lot in the first couple of weeks of quarantine with work. Today, we are going to explore some strategies that have worked for me and others. Put it away. At the end of each work day, I put it all away. Even if I work from home that […]
As 2020, and COVID drag on it is important to be patient with ourselves, our families and our neighbors. This month, we are going to look at simple strategies that are meant to help you feel a little less crazy this year. Shhhhhh…. It’s quiet time. It may sound simplistic but how often do you turn all […]
Our world seems to feel a little smaller every day. There is over crowding is most cities, right now we are all stuck at home feeling as though there is not enough room in our four walls, the media is constant, we live in a ‘global community’ and have access to people all over the world […]
In her book, “A history of the Wife,” Yalom describes what it meant to be a wife and the concept of love from the time of the Romans through today. (It's not my favorite book but it brings up some really interesting conversations and historical points.) Yalom points out that that in the beginning marriage was […]
Esther Perel has done a lot of work with couples and looked at how to ‘want what you have’ long term. In her book, “Mating in Captivity,” she wrote: “Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.” "Mating in Captivity; Unlocking Erotic Intelligence" - Esther Perel For some people, they believed or hoped that being […]