In her book, “A history of the Wife,” Yalom describes what it meant to be a wife and the concept of love from the time of the Romans through today. (It's not my favorite book but it brings up some really interesting conversations and historical points.) Yalom points out that that in the beginning marriage was […]

Esther Perel has done a lot of work with couples and looked at how to ‘want what you have’ long term.  In her book, “Mating in Captivity,” she wrote: “Love enjoys knowing everything about you; desire needs mystery.” "Mating in Captivity; Unlocking Erotic Intelligence" - Esther Perel For some people, they believed or hoped that being […]

Dating in a time when it is considered healthy to stay a minimum of six feet away from people is a unique challenge unto itself.  Not that it wasn’t difficult enough to strike up a conversation with a stranger or even meet someone before the pandemic.  In fact, my neighbor last weekend said she hasn’t been on […]

Earlier this year I virtually met Marie from her streaming show Mxiety. Last night we teamed up to talk to her community and let them share, talk and ask questions about how to work through their Anxiety during quarantine. You can watch it HERE.

For a lot of couples, being in quarantine has turned up the intensity of stress and even conflict.  In fact, I think most couples have likely struggled in all the stress.  Financial concerns are huge, for some having to negotiate the kids being home all the time, having to learn new ways to blow off steam, losing […]

Remember in February and March when we didn't think that COVID-19 would get the bad where we live? That was fun, right? Ignorance really is bliss. In a way I'm glad I didn't really know what was coming as I simply would have worried about things far beyond my control. As we settle into our […]

I often find that people, especially those that have experienced trauma have an internal battle.  There is a fight between what they know and how they feel.  And often how we feel overrides what we know.  The trouble is that this often happens so quickly we don’t realize that we are acting on information that is not fact but feeling.  We do […]

I don’t know when it happened…. Maybe it started stoic western European settlers that came to what would become the US via very difficult journeys then had to do awful things to Native Americans and at times to each other while making new lives but somehow our culture has separated the body and the mind.  It’s […]

Do you have physical complaints and keep going to the doctor, who tells you there’s nothing wrong with you?  If this keeps happening to you, you probably have somatic symptoms that often are related to trauma. Keep reading then.   What Are Somatic Symptoms and How Common Are They? Somatization is basically any physical symptom that […]