Last time, we talked about the myth of perfection and how perfection and shame are near relatives. Perfection is typically about living in a way that is about making other people happy (or impressing them). Where living authentically is usually less hurtful (though possible more uncomfortable at times) and there is a lot more compassion […]
For a long time, I wouldn’t even consider myself a perfectionist because I wasn’t good enough at being ok to even call myself an aspiring perfectionist. Without realizing it, I existed to make other people happy or at least make them think I was doing well without any help. Somewhere along the way, my self […]
We talk about this is one shape or another a lot... What are our obligations to ourselves? Self Talk I think this shows up a lot in how we speak ourselves in particular. Do you tell yourself you “deserve” good treatment or poor? How do you speak to yourself? A lot of us speak to […]
Do you feel like you are over committed? Do you feel as though you spend more time juggling your scheduled than living your life? WHY? I’m pretty sure we’ve all been in a place in life that we didn’t feel like we had time really sit back and enjoy things. It happens to all of […]
As people start to pursue (or berate themselves for not pursuing) their New Year’s resolutions. I have been listening and looking around wondering who we owe things to and why. This month we are going to be looking at obligations and asking ourselves who we have decided we are obligated to and why. The definition […]
Have you ever felt like you may be addicted to someone? Or that you couldn’t get them out of your head even though you know they probably aren’t good for you? What if I told you that your nervous system could be wired to find you the wrong person?! RIGHT?! Yikes. So last time we […]
For some of us, romantic relationships feel easier than friendships. There is almost a more clear pathway to romance than friendship. We grow up hearing things like, “break ups are hard” and “they wouldn’t call them crushes, if they didn’t hurt.” But what do they tell us about friendship? They tell us to be friends […]
In my last blog I discussed industries (yes, ENTIRE indsustries) that profit from your pain. This time I want to talk about industries that profit from you being sick. If you have met me for more than about 5 minutes, you probably know that I love to laugh and watch/listen to comedy. One of my […]
I mean the question pretty littlerally. Who makes money when you feel badly? To be honest, the list is pretty long. There are not a lot of businesses that lift you up for profits. Or perhaps more to the point, they seek to keep you down. From time to time, I will chuckle with my […]