What do you do when you are mad at your therapist? Normally, when you are really upset and you don’t know how to solve it, you would talk it out with your therapist and figure out how you want to handle it… But now theyare the person you don’t know how to resolve the issue with. […]
Do you have a big interview coming up? Are you freaking out? Here are some simple ideas for you to channel that nervous energy into an awesome interview. Below are some standard interview questions that you are likely to be asked some version of and you should be prepared to answer. Name three strengths and […]
Are you terrified of interviews? For the me the best way to address my anxiety is typically to take some actions. So I have made you an easy to follow list of 9 steps to take to help you walk into your interview with confidence, known you are prepared. Show up 10-15 minutes early. Do […]
Shame lives in the shadows but not everyone deserves to know our pain. So how do we know when we are ready to share and with whom we can share our pain? And where do we even begin? Start small. Start by writing about whatever it is. Writing activates a different part of your brain […]
Shame lives in the shadows. It wants you to stay small, afraid and alone. One of the most powerful parts of shame is its ability to make you feel like the people whom you care for will reject you if they truly knew this about you. It’s as though it is raining, really hard but […]
Happy first day of May!!! A client shared THIS clip of comedian Pete Davidson on SNL with me and while it made us both laugh, I thought it was also a good way to bring up talking about the shades of gray in mental health. One of my favorite books of all time, Man’s Search for […]
Last time, we talked about the myth of perfection and how perfection and shame are near relatives. Perfection is typically about living in a way that is about making other people happy (or impressing them). Where living authentically is usually less hurtful (though possible more uncomfortable at times) and there is a lot more compassion […]
For a long time, I wouldn’t even consider myself a perfectionist because I wasn’t good enough at being ok to even call myself an aspiring perfectionist. Without realizing it, I existed to make other people happy or at least make them think I was doing well without any help. Somewhere along the way, my self […]
We talk about this is one shape or another a lot... What are our obligations to ourselves? Self Talk I think this shows up a lot in how we speak ourselves in particular. Do you tell yourself you “deserve” good treatment or poor? How do you speak to yourself? A lot of us speak to […]