As an individual learns and grows, they build and idea or an image of what and who their parents are and what they want from their parents.  At the same time, they are taking in implicit and explicit rules from their parents as well as the outside world. Implicit:  Implied, rather than expressly stated unquestioning or […]

So many couples point to their partner when they think about what isn’t working in their relationship.  While it may be necessary for your partner to make some changes, have you taken a good inventory of what you are bringing to the table that is influencing the relationship? Does someone have to be at fault? For […]

So many people both single and in relationships hold on to the idea that if they were just in a happier relationship, then their lives would be better, easier and more fulfilling.  But that simply is not the case.  It is not possible for your relationship alone (or your kids, or job, etc.) to meet all of […]

Anxiety, much like anger, can take different forms and appear differently in different situations.  For some anxiety looks likes like agitation with fidgeting and pacing but for others it can look more like they are withdrawn or checked out of things.  For so many people who thought that life would have returned to what they once felt […]

Not at all unlike the stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance), during quarantine and other COVID limits and separations, a lot of people are getting pissed!  Angry about having to wear a mask, angry that other people aren’t wearing their masks.  Irritated at delays and shortages on needed items.  Pulling your hair out about ever […]

In 2020, most of us spent more time on screens than ever before.  For many of us it was the only thing connecting us to our friends and family during a period of global isolation.  But what else the internet come to represent for us?  Entertainment, education, politics, work, distractions, solutions, etc.   Learning? Part of the allure around […]

The truth is, we will be learning about what the long term impacts the internet has on the developing brain for a long time.  But we already know a few things about how the use of the internet impacts well-being and socialization.  We know that for adults as well as children, the internet is just as much […]

It seems as though there has been a great deal of conversation around avoidance behaviors and dissociation lately and their terrible impacts.   Dissociation and Avoidance... Friend or Foe? First, everyone dissociates and avoids.  When a person makes the same trip over and over again (for example the drive from work to home), their brain makes a […]

I can’t remember exactly what drew me to this series.  Maybe is it because I really like London and usually really enjoy period movies.  And initially, I couldn’t figure out what made me keep watching.  There is a simplicity and honesty to it that does not exist in most of the stuff that is available these days. There […]